Salaam everyone and a very warm Eid Mubarak to you all!

Eid Al-Adha is due to arrive this weekend and we thought it would be nice to share the meaning behind this, for who aren’t so sure.

Eid Al-Adha actually translates to ‘the feast (or festival) of sacrifice’, which Muslims commemorate the willingness of Prophet Ibrahim (Abraham) to sacrifice his Son Ismael (Ishmael) as an act of obedience and order from Allah (God). As Ibrahim was about to perform this gesture towards, Allah intervened replacing Ismael with a Ram, which was sacrificed instead. We are to sacrifice an animal, such as a Goat, Cow, Sheep etc in the name of God, where we would then split the meat into 3 portions, one for your direct family, one for relatives and the final third for the poor.

This Eid always falls on the 10th day of the 12th and last Islamic month of the Islamic calendar, just after Hajj.

For more on Eid and to find out the meaning of Eid Al-Fitr please click the link below or scroll down.

http://www.muslimandsingle.com/blog/index.php/news/eid-mubarak

 

 

A newscast by the BBC suggested that British Muslim men brought almost 12’000 Muslima women into the UK from Pakistan, India, Africa, Iran, Arabia and other Eastern countries in 2009 (National Statistics, 2009). This suggested that Single Muslim males were returning ‘home’ in search of a partner as opposed to finding themselves a spouse from the UK for Muslim marriage.

In the wake of this however, there seems to be a massive demand for Muslim singles websites, which is apparent by performing a quick Google search online. The popular terms ‘Islamic marriage’, ‘Muslim matrimonial’, ‘single Muslim’ or ‘Muslim singles’ return over 24 million results per search, with companies such ourselves (MuslimAndSingle.com) featuring regularly.

BBC news reporter Robert Piggot, observed a Muslim singles event and described the attendees as ‘westernised and attractive’, he also mentioned that the event was of a ‘relaxed and friendly’ atmosphere. “

“Our vision when creating this site was to consider what British Muslims felt that they were missing from other Muslim Qiran sites” says Sonia Hashmi, Business Development leader, MuslimAndSingle.com. She further explained that it was the fact that people couldn’t meet ‘like minded Muslims’ that easily on other Muslim Zawaj websites that drove the creation of the site. “When designing the site, we looked at all of the other solutions on the market and realised that one thing stood out; none of the websites were focussed solely on British single Muslims. Their databases seemed to be diluted with people from all over the world”. Additionally, Sonia explained that their service wasn’t solely restricted to the online Muslims, as they have now arranged a serries of Muslim matrimonial events to allow for those people who would like to meet offline.  “Muslim dating is something that we endeavour to stray away from, because being Muslim ourselves we understand that ‘dating’ can be a sensitive issue. That’s why we focus on what we call Matchmaking events, with a series of ‘mini introductions’ (similar to speed dating). The idea behind our philosophy is to allow single Muslims a place where they can meet and interact with other Single British Muslims so hopefully and Inshallah (god willing), they can start their journey towards love and marriage”.

Imaam Ajmal Masroor of London recently echoed Sonia’s sentiments about allowing British Single Muslims to complete half your deen and interact, by stating that UK Muslim men should focus on creating relationships within Britain when searching for a potential wife. ‘Muslim men should look within their own community’.

We hope all of our new and existing members agree with Imaam Ajmal Masoor and begin their journey towards love and happiness using our service, Inshallah.

With Muslim matrimonial sites on the rise, it has become inevitable that more ‘traditional minded’ Turkish singles and Turkish Cypriot singles have began using the Internet as a place to source a romantic match. Within the Turkish and Turkish Cypriot community, it is often found that people desire to meet other Turkish singles that share similar values, traditions and outlooks on life.

Dipping your toes into the Islamic marriage scene can be an exciting but daunting prospect for any single British Muslim. For individuals who hold their traditions and cultural values dear, as many Turkish and Turkish Cypriot men and women do, finding ‘The One’ is about so much more than just liking someone’s profile picture and description. This is a common factor amongst all British Muslims, as finding your match is also about meeting that person who shares your religious background, values and traditions, while also being able to blend in with your family.

With many Turkish Muslims relocating around the world, their physical community circles have gotten smaller, and the demands of modern life means many of us are spending more and more time online, using social platforms and online matrimonial sites. In the past, for Turkish and Turkish Cypriot singles the most common mode of matchmaking would have been the parental route (where parents introduce their children to a prospective match through extended friends and family networks). While this technique used to be successful, the cultural differences in generations provide a clear shift in growth towards Turkish singles meeting their match online.

There are so many Turkish and Turkish Cypriot people living in Britain (approximately 80,000 Turkish people and 130,000 Turkish Cypriots!) and it’s interesting to think that you will only normally meet a tiny portion of these people in your lifetime. Even while you may share ethnicity with those you do meet, the chances of meeting that special person who shares your ideals, values and dreams aren’t as high as they potentially could be.

Being from a secular-Muslim country, we know how much modernity mixed with a genuine understanding of tradition, religion and customs matters to British Muslim, Turkish Muslim and Turkish Cypriot Muslim singles when it comes to marriage and dating. These factors play a great role in choosing that person you fall in love with as does your compatibility with them. At Muslim&Single, our online platform and matchmaking events are all geared towards meeting your cultural preferences and needs when on the search for lasting love.

All of these above mentioned reasons are exactly why Muslim&Single serves the perfect platform to meet other British Muslims as we unite Muslims from all walks of life, placing great importance of values and traditions we all cherish.  We understand that it’s not always easy to meet people who share these similarities and our religion isn’t something we’d like to compromise on, which is another reason why we hold regular events for single Muslims in London and Manchester. At Muslim&Single we are dedicated in helping British Turkish and Turkish Cypriot singles find lasting love and happiness, and in doing so  making the journey a fun, engaging and most of all a worthwhile one.

So whether you are a single Turk, Turkish Cypriot or a single British Muslim, why not give us a try and see if we can begin your journey towards love and happiness.

Last weekend we noticed that there were double the messages sent out on Muslim&Single than normal and we’d like to make sure you are making the most of your experience.

Sending a message doesn’t necessarily have to be an art form, but we know that sometimes it can be hard to say what you want to say and for that reason we’d like to help you out. Below, we’ve included a bad example and a good example of messages that people typically send.

Bad Example

Hey,

How’s ur search goin? U luk great in ur picture

Whats your name? What do u do for work? Where are u frm? I’m a 31 and from Wolverhampton … Hey whats your faecbook? or if you like message me your email addy so I can add you to my msn and we can chat on there.

Tex or call me on  0773456789 cos it wud be good to get to know you better. If u want, add my bb 123AB456 or I use whatsapp. If ur gna call me text me before so i know.

By the way… your the best looking person on here by a mile

Chat 2 u soon. Ali xxx

So did you spot the errors in this? (no we don’t just mean spelling mistakes!) Below are a few things that we took from his message:

  • It’s nice to ask people how they are getting on but try and start the conversation off with originality. Also, writing in short ‘txt’ format is a big no-no.
  • If you ask too many messages in a row, it shows over eagerness and also that you probably haven’t read their profile.
  • Muslim&Single offer a safe and secure place for you to converse with someone so there is no rush to offer your email address and every other contact method, be sensible and take your time to get to know people.
  • Would you go up to a random person on the street and offer your email or other contact information out? I’m sure you’d want to get to know them for a little first… or if you did just hand it out, they probably would never call you.
  • Flattery and compliments are always appreciated, but try and be realistic and personal. Also, running a spell check before you press send is always a good idea.

 

Good Example

Hey,

You have no idea how refreshing it is to find a guy who hates football! My 2 brothers never give the remote up at home, so the weekends can get a bit boring in my house. Then again, I usually get my way when the X factor comes on hehe :) !  I noticed that your profile says that you’re funny and sarcastic. I have quite dry humour myself, so it would be interesting to hear you tell a joke sometime. I also noticed you do charity work, how did you come about getting involved in that? I’ve always had a desire to help people out, Insahllah when I get more spare time I’ll be able to do some charity work too. Do you only do weekends, or is it during the week too?

You have a really charming smile by the way, although it’s not as nice as Simon Cowell’s! I’ve uploaded a couple of photo’s recently, so hopefully you can have an idea of who’s talking to you and it would be nice to hear back from you

Speak soon,

Salma

Now wasn’t that such a better message? I’m sure most of you would be happy for the thoughtfulness put into this email and you’d respond to it. Here’s why we think it was so good:

  • The way she opened the conversation about what she knew about him showed that she has read his profile.
  • She then went on to tell him something about herself.
  • Another great thing she did was to highlight where they both had common interests.
  • She was inquisitive and asked questions about things that were on his profile.
  • She then added some of her humour and ended the conversation openly.

(These messages are just for example purposes and are not real messages sent on Muslim&Single).

Inshallah you found that this was a nice bit of helpful advice and we look forward to hearing about your successes online.

If you would like any other help or advice, please feel free to get in touch with us on info@muslimandsingle.com

 

Eid Mubarak!

Eid Mubarak!

Salaam everyone, it is now time to rejoice in celebration as Eid is now upon us! Congratulations to all of you who completed Ramazan, this year we know how extremely tough and tiring it has been. We wish you all a beautiful Eid and enjoy the celebrations with your families.

For those of you who would like to know more about Eid al-Fitr, please read on.

Eid al-Fitr (Eid ul-Fitr) arrives on the first new moon after the month of Ramazan, signalling that fasting has now come to an end. The word ‘Eid’ derives from Arabic and means festivity, whilst ‘Fitr’ means breaking (of the fasting period, similar to Iftar).

On Eid, Muslims are to attend mosque, usually in the morning where they will pray the Eid Namaz (or Salat). Before they pray, normally at the mosque entrance Zakat al-Fitr is paid. Zakat is the term for charity, something that all Muslims should give, as caring for each other and helping those less fortunate is widely advocated within the Quran. The amount of Zakat is variable on personal circumstances and can be paid by the head of each household, if desired.

As for the Eid prayer, this is also said to be obligatory to all Muslims and must be performed with Jama’at (in congregation) . The prayer itself is different from others, as it is made up of six Takbirs (where you raise your hands to your ears and say Allah-O-Akbar), three of these before the first Raka’ah and three before Ruku (before you bow to recite your prayer).

Celebrations usually commence once prayers have come to an end. Many cultures celebrate in different ways, but one trend in common is the ‘Eid Greeting’.  On giving someone your Salaam, you will then proceed to hug the person three times; to their right side, their left side and again to their right. Generally this will only take place between people of the same sex, or with family members. Eid al-Fitr is to be celebrated over three days, where Muslims will assemble together with family members and friends to share feasts. It is a time for humility, and we are all encouraged to forgive and forget any differences we once had with people. Another emblematic tradition of Eid is the giving of gifts to those younger (known as Eidi in some cultures).

From all of us here at MuslimandSingle.com, we wish you Eid Mubarak and pleasant greetings upon your friends and families.

Ramazan Kareem

With Ramazan fast approaching, we thought that it would be nice to share some knowledge on the subject, starting with its purpose. Ramazan (or Ramadhan, Ramzan, Ramadan) falls in the 9th month of the Islamic calendar and typically lasts for 30 days. It is a month of fasting, where Muslims are to abstain from eating and drinking within the hours of sunlight. This is to teach us both humility, patience, and not to forget spirituality, three vital components of being a Muslim.

The word Ramazan itself is derived from the Arabic words of Ramida (or Ar-ramad), which can be translated into the meaning of intense heat, dry grounds or rationing. Prior to Islam, fasting was evident within the Jewish faith and can be referred to by the practice of Yom Kippur. In the Quran, Allah proclaims that “fasting has been written down (as obligatory) upon you, as it was upon those before you”.

Ramazan starts the day after the astronomical new moon, as this signifies the beginning of a new month, which explains why it also ends with a new full moon, signifying the new month. The start of the month prompts Muslims to change their daily routines and to implement the following: Fasting, Praying and Iftar.

Those exempt from fasting are the elderly, pregnant or new mothers, women in their menstruation cycle, the terminally ill and mentally ill and young children. Those who miss fasts should always if possible make them up at the end of Ramazan expect from the mentally ill, however for the Elderly and chronically ill, it is important that they feed the poor or give generously in Zakat.

Whilst fasting purity of one’s thoughts and actions are important. Muslims should redirect their thoughts and heart from worldly activities, with the purpose being to cleanse the inner soul and free it from harm. This also teaches Muslims to practice self-discipline, self-control, sacrifice, and empathy for those who are less fortunate.

From dawn to sunset is when a Muslim must abstain from food and drink, but after these hours Muslims enjoy what is known as Iftar. This is when you can enjoy your meal, which is preceded by eating a date or something sweet. Iftar falls minutes before the Maghrib prayer, so many Muslims will open their fast, and then pray and afterwards feast. In addition to fasting and 5 daily prayers, every night before a fast Muslims are encouraged to pray Tarawih. The Tarawih prayer in particular is important as over the course of the holy month, the entire Quran is read.

Throughout Ramazan we will be posting more information and helpful tips on our Facebokpage, so please come and join us at www.facebook.com/muslimandsingle, and lastly Ramazan Kareem everyone!

 

UK cities fasting timetable 2011

Marriage and finding love within the Arab Muslim community has generally been quite a conservative process. Traditionally, arranged marriages have been the norm, whereby when a son or daughter reaches the right age his/her family would start looking for a suitable marriage partner on their behsf.

However, as Arab Muslims have migrated around the world their physical community circles have shrunk so new ways of meeting single Arabs have been created to help these individuals. There aren’t many places where Arabs congregate, can easily interact with each other, especially with opposite genders.

The latest figures show that the UK Arab population is approximately 500,000 with people originating for various countries from the Middle East.  Today’s Arab community is well versed in western customs including a keen interest in technology, therefore many single Arabs are now turning to the Internet. The web now plays an important part in helping single Arab Muslims connect with each other in order to find a suitable Arab marriage partner.

Joining a services like Muslim & Single which promote the ideals of long term happiness and commitment are becoming increasingly viable solutions. The great thing about the web is that you can connect with anybody far a field and get to understand a potential partner’s values and characteristics in a convenient way.

Are you a Single Arab and interested? Then why not give us a try?

Muslim Marriage Events

When it comes to meeting other Single Muslims we know that it can be very difficult. At Muslim&Single our number one aim is to help single British Muslims find true love & happiness and that is why we have introduced a range of Muslim Marriage events aimed at those looking for marriage. We felt that alongside our online network of Single Muslims we wanted to introduce another method for individuals to meet and felt that a Muslim Marriage event would be the ideal way.

The main focus of our events is to ensure that each guest has the opportunity to meet every member of the opposite gender that is present; this is done through our face to face 2 minute, one to one mini introductions.  You can find out information about the person you are talking too, see what their personality is like and if you have anything in common.  The introduction session is followed by an icebreaker game to allow guests to continue mingling and help guests feel further at ease. The evening is rounded off with a halal buffet provided by Haz Restaurant. Further mingling is encouraged at this point and after dinner to allow you to get to know potential suitors that little bit better. Our friendly team are at hand throughout the entire evening to provide advice or assistance to all the guests.

Being a Muslim Marriage event we ensure that we try to observe and keep the event as halal as possible. The event is conducted within a restaurant with all the food being halal. There is a male and female host at the events who act as chaperones for the night and the venue is privately booked ensuring your security and safety. We also provide an area for salat.

Our first Sell Out event took place on Saturday 23rd April at Haz Restaurant in London.  Haz is a warm and inviting venue that has a sleek and modern interior to provide optimum comfort for all guests. Guests enjoyed themselves, mingled with each other and feedback from the event was incredibly positive. The food on the night which consisted of a Middle Eastern halal buffet was simple, fresh and delicious and went down a treat with everyone. Inshallah we are very optimistic that many of the guests met prospective partners and that all our future events will further provide a platform for Single Muslims to meet for marriage.

For further details about our next event or to purchase tickets click here.

Did you know that we check each and every picture that is added to a profile,  what a lovely looking bunch you are! But for those of you who haven’t added your picture, why not? You’re missing out.

By adding a profile picture you are likely to get at least 15 times more people contacting you than if you don’t have a picture.  This is because people like to see who they are communicating with, it instills confidence in them which can actually make the conversation easier. Also by adding a picture to your profile and sending messages to other members you would like to get to know better you are more likely to receive a positive response.  Another a benefit of taking your time to add a picture is that others will take your search for a partner more seriously.

Finally in the day and age of digital cameras and Facebook there should be no real excuses for not adding a picture.  We highly recommend you add you picture and see what a difference it makes.

Add your picture now

We thought long and hard about what our the icon in our logo should say. We wanted it to be a reflection of what Muslim&Single fundamentally stands for, and that it came from a meaningful place. When deciding upon the type of script we wanted to use it was a unanimous decision that we went with Arabic because of its beauty and strong identity with all UK Muslims.  After months of discussions, suggestions, drafts and even more drafts we made our final decision and we couldn’t be happier.

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